My Views on Marriage Equality from My Religious Standpoint

Americans are covered by:

The Declaration of Independence

The US Constitution

The Bill of Rights

Religion is covered by:

Insert Holy Book of personal choice

Let’s assume, for the moment, that people are familiar with and adhere to these governing documents created for and by Americans. That being said, we must now understand that Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof*. We must also understand that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness**. Nowhere in the entire series of documents does it even mention marriage, marriage laws vary by state to state.

However we do know that no state government can make any laws concerning religion. Religious groups are free to do as they wish, to judge and to adhere to their own respective doctrines. This is fine with me and is as it should be.

Again, however, when the state creates a law governing marriage, or anything for that matter, the state should adhere to the founding doctrines of what built America, such as the US Declaration of Independence. The state should understand that here in America we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness**.

Since all men are created equal and since this is a self-evident truth with which we can not disagree, isn’t it logical then that all men have the same unalienable right to the pursuit of happiness, assuming this does not overlap into the governing of religion per the Bill of Rights? Don’t all men have this liberty under the conditions of the tip-top law of the land, assuming you actually believe that the Declaration of Independence truly means something as the basis upon which this Nation was formed.

Where in the hell does anything state in these documents that marriage must be between a man and a woman? Please can someone tell me. I am not expecting that churches or religious institutions should even pay attention to what I am saying, not that they will, as this matter is separate from religion. In fact this is in accordance with a state law which in itself can not govern religion. They are separate and must stay so. It is not of the religious institutions to determine what is and isn’t a marriage with regards to actual law. It is of the states of the United States of America to make this determination to best serve the people of those states.

I think it’s time the states actually looked at these papers. I think it’s time for the states to understand that it doesn’t matter what sexual preference people have, just like it doesn’t matter what religious preference people have. I believe that ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL AND HAVE THE RIGHT TO PURSUE HAPPINESS; which, I mean, would definitely include deciding who they would like to be married to.

I know that traditionally marriage has been between a man and a woman. That’s fine for the history books, people, but if we were to stay with that same logic it’s just as easy to state: Traditionally women were property and humans were enslaved, that’s just the way it was. We changed, evolved, from that thinking to create a better Nation for Americans in which we can enjoy these liberties as women and minorities, as humans. This growth is something to be proud of, something to keep pursuing.

On the practical side, gay marriage (you know I don’t even like that…it should be “marriage between loving and consensual adults” vs marriage and gay-marriage, let’s stop with the labels please) would help boost the economy in so many ways. Most people, including gays, for years have created families, lived as families, raised children as families…it’s not going to stop. It shouldn’t have to stop and it shouldn’t be discriminated against. Humans are humans and as long as they obey the law they are granted these rights as Americans. End of damned story.

I happen to be a christian and was saved over a decade ago. I also realize that my Creator created me to love and be attracted to both men and women, to fall in love with a couple of folk and build a family with them, and to enjoy knowledge, art, BDSM, bondage, and personal exploration into all the facets that make me a child of God. I am the very image of my Creator, as He created me, and there is no bible-thumping person out there who can make me waiver from my conviction that I am a good christian and can be judged only by God. That said I still believe that humans are created equal in the eyes of the Lord and this belief is thankfully mirrored in the governing documents of this great country.

I believe it is time for all men to have their unalienable rights bestowed to them and stop being persecuted, discriminated, and feared by other humans…especially other Americans.

I believe that loving consenting adults should be allowed to enter into the union of marriage under state law regardless of religion. With Baptist roots, I wouldn’t expect to be married in a Catholic church or a Jewish Temple, and I wouldn’t expect religious institutions to grant marriage ceremonies to gay people unless that church decides to. But there is nothing, nothing, to say that all states of the United States of America shouldn’t grant the right of marriage to all Americans in a state governed union ceremony.

People came to America for freedom. That’s what we promise. Let’s go on ahead and live up to this promise and grant all adult Americans the right to enter into a legal union of marriage, to be able to legally call themselves a family as Americans. These families are already here, they are working and paying taxes, they are raising children, they are humans, they should and will pursue their happiness as much as they can under the law as Americans. Why not let them be a legal family for the children’s sake, why not let them be a legal family for medical needs, why not let them be a family for the sake of being a family because it is their right as man? We need to stop discrimination based on something that is shared behind closed doors anyway and is none of anyone’s damned business.

We need to teach our new generation that acceptance, though sometimes harder to do than discrimination, is what being an American is about. We need to teach these children that families are formed from people who love each other, who want to work and live and grow together. We should teach these children and adults the power of love and acceptance, and not of hate and discrimination which is only tearing our country apart. As Americans isn’t it our goal to form a more perfect union*** by securing the blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity***, let’s stop hurting our fellow Americans and let’s grant all men their unalienable rights once and for all.

I’m not here to judge, that’s not my job or my right, I am merely a human expressing how I feel in accordance to what I believe as a human who happens to have christian roots. That’s pretty much all I had to say.


* – Bill of Rights

** – The US Declaration of Independence

*** – The United States Constitution

~ by An Amazing Woman on May 6, 2009.

One Response to “My Views on Marriage Equality from My Religious Standpoint”

  1. Hey there
    Enjoyed you blog, and I have read a few of the other ones as well. Take a look at my blog:; dealing with Gay Marriage.
    I’d love to dialog with you about perhaps placing a link there so my readers could take a look at what you’re doing.
    Again, keep up the suburb work!
    Aaron Myers

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